Steph joined me for a workshop on familial ties. She chose to study her father and herself as her two focus points. She made these reflective narrations during her time with myself. She has kindly allowed me to reveal them here:
I’m on a roll with this workshop and prepared this pair of self-portraits from a photo taken on a holiday in Norfolk in 2011. I stitched the portrait a few years ago, and it stayed unused in my sketchbook. I remember I’d had a stressful couple of weeks at work, covering a colleague’s job as well as my own and left home with our caravan in a rush with very few items and just the pair of shoes I was wearing at the time. I was contemplating leaving my job when I returned. My husband took the photo in black & white without my knowledge. We’d stopped at the ‘Broads’ for drinks and I’d taken photos of tree bark and cow parsley. Despite the lack of clothes and footwear, I had a lovely relaxing time away, got over the stress and continued my job, setting some boundaries for myself. I retired 2 years later, earlier than expected, but that’s another story ..
‘My other collage piece is of my father who was born 1925, died 1985 and would be 100 yrs so thought it appropriate. I never knew him, he was in my life for just over 2 yrs and I saw him around 3 times up to the time my mum remarried when I was 13. She didn’t allow me to talk about him, her divorce was bitter and I grew up with a feeling that half my history was missing until 2012 after I was reunited with my cousins, his nephews. The youngest provided me with background and I also spoke to my half sister in 2015 after her brother died. Contact has now been lost but gaps in my life have been filled. I’ve added a page from his schoolbook, his diary from 1951, the year he married my mum (no mention in his diary, it was his fishing diary). I’ve added fabrics I think he would wear at the time, I remember him always in a jacket looking smart, although we were in Bahrain where I was born and I have photos of him in patterned shirts. I’ve also added a photo of my youngest son, who I feel has shared a similar path to me, as he’s been brought up from 3 yrs by his stepdad and is also a traveller and now works in the USA in design, so a similar path to my father. I also think I can see similar facial features as my dad. My father was a draughtsman working for an American oil company and moved countries several times, sadly we weren’t to follow him.
I’ve enjoyed this collage it’s purposely styled in an ‘orderly’ way as I think that’s how my dad would have been but after I’ve stitched it I won’t be dwelling on it as after a few years of therapy, having not been allowed to mention him, I’ve finally moved on and completing this piece helps me acknowledge this - so thank you Ailish I’ve managed to remain detached whilst compiling his pieces’
Once you click on her artwork image seen left, you will be taken to a curated gallery of her work. The examples visually convey how one can work through the stages of a familial artwork.